Brainwave entrainment is a method to stimulate the brain into entering a specific state by using a pulsing sound, light, or electromagnetic field. The pulses elicit the brain’s ‘frequency following’ response, encouraging the brainwaves to align to the frequency of a given beat.
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If you can’t stop yourself going out of your way to make others happy, to gain their attention, then you should take a look at what affect this can have on your own happiness. There’s nothing wrong in putting yourself out to help others, but when it becomes your main purpose, two things can happen. You will either annoy others because you go overboard even when they may not need help, or you will attract those people who use others for their own advantage. You may even recognize this, but be helpless to stop your behaviour pattern.
If you find yourself being this sort of person at times, you are hiding your true self to maintain favor with your peers. These people-pleasing behaviours are known as adapters.This behaviour often stems from a childhood environment where the person’s opinion was not valued, or they may have been neglected and made to feel not worthy of the affection of others. This in turn gives the impression that by pleasing others they are making themselves a more worthy person. To gain favor of others they erroneously feel that there is a need to forget who they are and bend to the will of others.
By focusing on others and not paying attention to what is deep down inside your own heart and mind, you will sooner or later come to feel lonely and empty inside. Although you may have made many friends you will doubt their true intentions and in essence you will be living your life through others. this is a very unhealthy pattern and one that you should try to correct to get your life back on track and to feel better about yourself to gain what you truly deserve.
The first step is to learn to say NO. This alone will make you break the chains of behaviour linking you with others. At first you will feel uncomfortable in doing this and as with any habitual behaviour, there will be an element of guilt when you make this change.You will soon find out who your true friends are and the more frequently you adopt this new behaviour the more empowered you will feel. By politely refusing to be at other’s beck and call you will find you will benefit in so many ways, and soon get used to the new feeling of freedom.
By looking after your own state of mind you will be generating a feeling of total well being and also benefitting others around you. Your relationships will improve as you will be on a par with those people you associate with. Your state of mind is well worth the effort because when you have a healthy point of view, those around you will be healthy as well. Your thoughts and emotions are the essence of who you are. Being unsure of yourself and trying too hard to be the person you believe others want to see will make you lose your self respect and dignity.
Most people-pleasers will feel, incorrectly, that they will not be liked. The truth is that anyone who stops liking you just because you say no to something that you don’t want to do, wasn’t really a true friend anyway, so what have you got to lose? A true friend is there for you through thick and thin and will be concerned for your welfare as well as their own. Only by being true to yourself will you be able to build enduring relationships built on trust and true friendship and your life will be better for it.
So stop being someone else’s puppet and become a person who controls their own life. Once you have freed yourself from the fear of rejection you will find, ironically, that you then will become and accepted for being your own person. Who is in charge of your life? The answer should be you!
Such a leap in confidence can seem daunting to someone lacking in self belief and there are ways that you can build your confidence to the extent that your friends will find you a different person! With self-hypnosis and brainwave entrainment techniques thousands have found the inner strength to change themselves and their life for the better.
Brainwave entrainment is a method to stimulate the brain into entering a specific state by using a pulsing sound, light, or electromagnetic field. The pulses elicit the brain’s ‘frequency following’ response, encouraging the brainwaves to align to the frequency of a given beat.
This ‘frequency following’ response of brainwave entrainment can be seen in action with those prone to epilepsy. If a strobe flashes at their seizure frequency, the brain will ‘entrain’ to the flashing light, resulting in a seizure.
On the positive side, this same mechanism is commonly used to induce many brainwave states; such as a trance, enhanced focus, relaxation, meditation or sleep induction. The brainwave entrainment effectively pushes the entire brain into a certain state.
Brainwave entrainment works for almost everyone. It is a great way to lead your mind into states that you might usually have difficulty reaching, allowing you to experience what those states feel like.
THE HYPE
There is a lot of marketing hype around brainwave entrainment. It is sold with promises of increasing IQ, promoting weight loss, ‘mind-tripping’, enhancing creativity, concentration, inducing spiritual states and more.
While these claims are not entirely true, they are not altogether false either. In practice, the claims are based on an overly-simplistic view of how the brain and the brainwaves function.
THE RUB
People are very seldom deficient in a certain brainwave type in all areas of their brain. Usually the distribution is much spottier, with an excess in one area and a deficiency in another.
We are all different, especially when it comes to the distribution of our brainwaves. Boosting a certain brainwave state may be beneficial for one person, and emotionally uncomfortable for another. Without knowing each person’s starting position, entrainment can be rather ‘hit and miss’.
If brainwave entrainment leaves you with unwanted side-effects (see below) or discomfort, you’re probably encouraging a range of brainwaves that are already excessive in some area of your brain. The way around this is to get a brain map to see what your brain’s strengths and weaknesses are, and see what (if any) brainwaves could use some encouragement.